The following are stories sent in by those who regret having a vasectomy. Not all have had problems post vasectomy.
| Clay Added February 11, 2004 Updated |
"When my wife was pregnant with our youngest child she brought up the idea of a vasectomy. We didn't really discuss it, but I assumed it was what she wanted. When our son was 6 weeks old, I had the vasectomy done. My wife, as it turned out, didn't want me to have the vasectomy. I feel badly that I didn't discuss it more with my wife. I feel badly that I made her feel left out of the whole process. It has been a horrible experience mentally and emotionally for my wife and in turn, myself." |
| Fern Added October 28, 2000 Updated |
"My wanting a reversal had nothing to do with wanting to have another child... I have 2 wonderful kids and that's all I want...I just could not continue being sterile... tried "living with it", ignoring it, acting like it never happened... none of it worked..." |
| Ganymedes Added January 24, 2009 |
This exceptionally well written story covers Ganymedes experience right through the decision process to nearly a year post vasectomy. The vasectomy recovery wasn't the advertised "Couple of days rest", and the story deals with this, and all of the emotional and mental fallout from it. Women reading this section are advised to read this story in particular - you will understand your husband a lot better as a result! |
| Janice Added August 30, 2008 |
Janice's husband was the one to make the "No more kids" decision, despite Janice not being sure. Her story discusses her regret at the unilateral decision, and the effect it's had on their marriage. |
| John #3 Added May 4, 2001 Updated May 11, 2003 |
John didn't really want a vasectomy. He was persuaded by his wife into having one based on the opinion of her ob/gyn. John feels that different opinion from a different ob/gyn makes his vasectomy unnecessary. |
| Richard #2 Added May 23, 2001 Updated |
Richard calls his story "Think twice". He had his vasectomy just before his 28th birthday after years of contemplating the decision. Some time later he met a lady and became close..... "I plan on having a reversal performed on me as soon as I am able to afford it. You may think that a vasectomy is the right thing to do and for some it probably is but please think twice before going through with it." Added to the childfree and regret sections. |
| Rick #3 Added January 16, 2003 Updated |
Rick had a vasectomy, and finds his wife is now no longer interested in sex. Also he is worried about possible sperm congestion. He concludes :- "So, I guess the moral of my story is, if you are considering a vasectomy, you'd best make damn sure your wife is in COMPLETE agreement with the decision. It doesn't matter how many kids you do or do not have. Explore her desires, her inner heart, and make absolutely certain she is not harboring a hidden desire for a child. In the same vein of thought, make sure she has matured in your sexual relationship to the point that love making is done for the mutual pleasure of both of you, not in a secret hope that it may result in a pregnancy." |